Blessed are you when someone corrects you. Being told what to do or how to do things may not always be a balm to the ego. It can also be an unwelcome advise to others. It stings to be corrected but the sting is momentary and if we dare to listen and obey wise correction, the benefit is lasting.
One of the things I thank God for in my life is that I had parents who always corrected me. Yes, a couple of that corrections were met with a grumble, a frown, a hostile attitude, a forced obedience, and other unbecoming reactions coming from a teenager who wanted to demonstrate freedom to decide for herself. Some of it though, I listened with sincerity and understanding. My father would always advised me to never go out with friends who may influence me to do things that would get me into trouble. Well, I was not perfect in that area, but I did have good friends. My father was also the one who always told me to read the Bible and make it a habit to read it regularly. He was also the one who advised me how important studying is and what it would mean for me to graduate college. My mother, on the other hand, was more of a disciplinarian. She would not allow me to go home late or to be out with friends late at night. She was my first teacher and would always push me to do my best in class to the point that she would pressure me to be in the honor roll every time. It has its ugly side but it also motivated me to be serious with my academics. Both of them had been my critics and my teachers. There were things I disobeyed and there were things I obeyed. Now, at 41 years of age, I realize all the more how important it is that we listen to wise counsel even when we do not like it or even when it stings. A wise counsel can save us many troubles if we only heed them.
As a teacher, I have seen how younger generations despise being corrected. If they don’t despise it, some treat it with indifference. Others, openly show their hostile reaction. As a parent, it means so much to me that my children would learn to listen to corrections. It has been my prayer for them to love correction by persons of authority. I am not a perfect parent, but I pray that somehow I could guide them in this area. So, whenever we sit together as a family, I explain to my two sons why Papa and Mama would say no to them and, sometimes, we would ask them not to do some things. I explain to them why they need to listen to our counsel and why they should not be angry when they are being taught of the right way or the right things.
Correction is love. No one who loves others can be content to watch them err, sin, or commit mistakes. It may not always be a pleasant task but it is a noble one. One that honors God. In the same manner, listening to correction is an expression of love. It responds with respect and grace. How blessed it is, therefore, when you have someone around you who reproves you and points you towards what is right and true. Wise counsel from family and friends are one of the blessed things you can get in this lifetime. It is a free coaching from loved ones. No need to pay for professional fees to teach you what to do.
“For the commandment is a lamp, and the law is light. Reproofs of instruction are the way of life…”– Proverbs 6:23 (WEB)
Listen to wise reproof. A wise reproof is nothing when it is unheeded. It will not bear fruit. But a wise reproof that is appreciated, accepted, and obeyed is like an earring of gold or an ornament of fine gold.
“As an earring of gold, and an ornament of fine gold, so is a wise reprover to an obedient ear.”– Proverbs 25:12 (WEB)
When you listen to wise correction it is like a precious ornament made of fine gold. An ornament is meant to add beauty or to embellish. When the ornament is made of gold it is both beautiful and precious. Obeying wise counsel is beautiful and precious. It makes life beautiful by guiding you towards what is good, pure, true, worthy, and honorable. It is precious as gold because it is priceless. It cannot be bought. It cannot be sold. It is not even a skill to be mastered. It springs from a humble and submissive heart. It opens the person to wisdom and righteousness. Its benefits? No amount of wealth could equal. No amount of money could pay for it. You gain wisdom, peace, honor, and life.
Once you ignore or hate wise correction and disicpline, you lose the precious benefits God has for you. Listen to wise counsel from parents, friends, and godly persons around you. It may hurt but the blessing it brings is more than than the bite of its sting.
“He is in the way of life who heeds correction, but he who forsakes reproof leads others astray.”– Proverbs 10:17 (WEB)